FOREVER
1
I don’t wanna go through this life
Without you by my side
And I got it all worked out
In my head here’s how it’s got to be
-- “Trees” by Marty Casey & Lovehammers
I stood in the rain and watched the sky. I was looking for answers that weren’t in the blackness that engulfed me. Neither were there any answers in the warm rain that washed over me. If there were no answers, I hoped the water would cleanse my soul of the depression I felt, but the longer I stood there, the more I spun out of control. The answers I was looking for weren’t coming. I felt like they were getting further away.
A week ago, I asked Erica to leave with me. Permanently. To throw everything else away. So I could be with her. We could be together. Forever. It was an odd feeling to have. We had only known each for a little more than six months. We’d spent virtually no time together, alone. We had barely touched. Yet, I knew that if we gave each other the opportunity we could be together. Forever.
I asked her to leave her husband. To be with me. To choose love over ease. To opt for passion over comfort. To decide that a life of unmitigated happiness, passion and love was better than anything else. To recognize that one could be happy. Forever.
2
Why are we overcome with fear?
What if I told you that fear isn’t real
What if I told you my friends your doubt
You could live without!
-- “Broken” by Scott Stapp
We met while I was in the hospital recovering from an emergency appendectomy. The nurse assigned to monitor me was on a break and it was time for my vital signs to be checked. Erica came in to perform the required tasks. Blood pressure. Pulse. Temperature. “And, have you had a bowel movement yet, Mr. Ross?”
“No,” I replied, uncomfortable with the subject given my thoughts at that moment. From the second she walked in, I hadn’t been able to take my eyes off her. She had brown hair--the color of cinnamon--that weaved its way down to her shoulders. Small, but perfect breasts. A narrow waist that widened to full hips and the most incredible ass I’d ever seen. Confined to my hospital bed, all I could do was imagine what it would feel like to put my hands on those hips. To wrap my arms around her and feel her pressed against me. To feel the fullness of her ass.
“Everything looks okay. Is there anything else I can get you?” she asked. She was writing something down on my chart so she wasn’t looking at me when she asked her question. A standard, garden variety question for a nurse making her rounds. If she had glanced my way, I would have turned away, embarrassed by the intentness of my stare. Instead, I was able to look at her face. She had pale skin, not quite porcelain white, just a hint of color to her. And her eyes were riveting. The curve of her lips and mouth as she spoke--I wanted nothing more than to be able to feel her lips with my own.
She was wearing the standard green scrubs, but I could see the skin of her neck and could imagine the arc to her shoulders and the smoothness of the skin there. “Is there anything else?” she repeated, turning now to look at me.
Quickly I turned my gaze to a spot on the wall just behind her. “No. Thanks.”
“Well, if you need anything my name is Erica.” She lingered for a moment, looking at me, before she turned and walked from the room.
3
There is a question I want to understand
Why can’t everyone tell the truth and learn to love again
-- “Broken” by Scott Stapp
At least that’s how I remember it. Who the hell really knows when I started looking at her that way. For all I know, when Erica was in my room that day I was so doped up that I was probably drooling and couldn’t have put two words together or formed a coherent thought. Hell, she was wearing nurse’s scrubs, the most formless, shapeless clothes there are. How could I have seen what her ass looked like or how perfect her breasts were? What I know for sure was that when she walked out of my room, I knew that I needed to see her again. Somewhere along the way, I discovered the wonders her body.
A week passed before I had the nerve to try to track her down. I called the hospital. When the receptionist answered the phone, I said, “I need to find somebody who works there. Her name is Erica.”
“There are two Erica’s here, sir. Can you be a little more specific?”
“She’s a nurse.”
“They’re both nurses. We’re a hospital. We have a lot of nurses here.” The receptionist was losing patience with me.
“I don’t know her last name. All I know is that I was recovering from surgery and she …”
“That makes it easier. Unless you’re a lot younger than you sound, your Erica is Erica Miller. Erica Santos works in Pediatrics. You’re not really twelve years old, are you, Romeo?” I was momentarily silenced by her assumption--correct assumption--of what lay behind my call.
“Uh … no … no,” I stammered. “I’m not twelve years old. Can you connect me with her?”
“I can transfer you to her station. But you probably won’t be able to talk to her.”
“Thanks.”
There was a short silence and then she said, “Good luck,” before moving me on to the next receptionist.
The phone rang three times before being picked up. “Med Station 4. How can I help you?” the harried voice said.
“I’m looking for Erica Miller.”
“She’s not working today. Is there something I can help you with?”
It never occurred to me that she wouldn’t be working. Now, confronted with the unexpected, I didn’t know what to do.
“Sir, would you like to leave Erica a message?”
“Yes. Yes, that’s what I want to do.” I grasped at the lifeline thrown by the disembodied voice on the other end of the line. “My name is Benjamin Ross. My phone number is 555-7583.”
“Will she know what this is about?”
That was a good question. There was that moment when she looked at me before leaving my room. For the past week, I wondered if she had felt what I had in that room that day, but such good fortune was unlikely. Would she have a reason to remember me among all the patients she had seen in the past week? “No, probably not. Just ask her to call me when she has a chance.”
“I’ll leave her the message.”
“Thanks,” I said, hanging up the phone. I made sure I was never far from the phone the rest of the day. When I needed to use the bathroom, I stretched out the cord so the phone was as close to me as possible. I kept checking the phone to make sure it was on. That it was plugged in. That there was a dial tone and it was properly working.
Two days later, I was still doing everything I could to stay close to the phone and it had yet to ring. Losing patience, I called again. Old pro that I was, I got past the hospital receptionist easily. “I’d like to speak with Erica Miller.”
“Please hold while I transfer you, sir.”
“Med Station 4, how can I help you?” the same harried voice asked.
“I’m trying to reach Erica Miller.”
“She’s with a patient at the moment. Would you like to leave a message?”
“Yes, please tell her that Benjamin Ross called again. Please … please tell her to meet me at the McInerney’s Sports Bar & Grill on the corner of 7th and J at . . . What time does she get off?”
“Ms. Miller is scheduled to work until 5:30 today.”
“Tell her I’d like to meet her at McInerney’s at 6:00.”
“I’ll give her the message.”
The line went dead and I hung up the phone realizing what I had just done. My palms began to sweat and I had a sudden need to visit the bathroom. On the one hand, I was amazed at my courage. On the other hand, I was terrified that she might actually show up.
I got to the bar at 5:30 and had a beer to calm my nerves before she got there. If she got there. At 5:50 I ordered a second beer and nursed it for the next twenty-five minutes. As I drained the bottle and got up to leave, the door to the bar opened and in Erica walked, looking around for somebody she might recognize. When her head turned in my direction and she spotted me, she stopped for a moment and I thought I saw the corners of her mouth turn up ever so slightly. Again, who really knows? But, given the events of the next few months, I’d like to think it was so.
Erica walked over to the stool next to me and sat down. Putting her purse on the bar, she turned and looked at me. “Sorry, I’m late. Busy day at the hospital.”
“That’s okay,” I began. I was willing to forgive her for everything she had ever done just because she had shown up. But before I could get any further, she interrupted me.
“You know, there are so many questions I’d like to ask you right now. Why me? Why here? Why now? What do you want from me? Are you a whacko? Should I be scared? Why did I come here to have a beer with a complete stranger?” she began in a rush. “You are going to buy me a beer, aren’t you?”
“Yeah. Sure,” I said, turning to get the bartender’s attention. “Can you ask me one question at a time?”
“I don’t know if I want to. Maybe I don’t even want to know the answers to any of my questions. I don’t know.”
The bartender placed a beer in front of Erica. Once his back was turned and he began walking to the other end of the bar, I looked at her. She was no longer wearing her scrubs and was instead in a sleeveless top and a pair of jeans with little rips in the left front pocket. I could see the curve of her shoulders and the smoothness of the skin there. I saw her eyes again. Her gentle hands as she picked up her beer. Her lips. I desperately wanted to kiss those lips, to caress them with my own. To place my hands on her shoulders and pull her to me. I wanted her to want me to do it. Until I knew she did, I couldn’t act.
“How about we start over?” I suggested.
We talked for an hour, about everything and nothing. When Erica rose to go, I asked her to stay longer. She held up her left hand and in the darkness of the bar, the ring didn’t glitter. It was dull and lifeless. “I can’t. I have a husband to get back to.”
I had forgotten the first rule of dating--check the left hand for a wedding ring. I wanted to pound my head on the bar, to bury myself alive. “Ooh. Right,” I mumbled instead. I had already fallen in love with this woman and she was married.
“You didn’t realize I was married?” she asked, sitting back down next to me.
“No. I don’t know why, it never occurred to me.”
“Well, I am,” Erica said. She got back up and walked out of the bar. When I looked after her as she went, I needed her and wanted her. I didn’t care that she was married.
I waited a week and called the hospital again. “Please tell Erica to meet me at McInerney’s at 6:00,” I told the harried voice and then went to the bar to wait. She showed up again, this time a little later. She sat down next to me. I ordered a beer for her. And we spent the next hour talking about everything and nothing. Just before she stood up to go, she asked me one of those questions she had rattled off when she had sat down at the bar the week before, “Why me?”
I thought about it for a moment and couldn’t think of an answer. “I don’t know.” I decided that I would be totally honest with her about my feelings. That I wouldn’t hide anything. “There’s something about you that fascinates and amazes me. I look at you sitting here and think I’m the luckiest man alive just to be able to sit and talk with you. I … I …,” I paused for a moment and then remembered my decision to be honest and then continued, “I want to touch every inch of your body with my hands. I want to …”
“Stop,” she said and placed her hand on my arm. It was the first time we had touched other than when she had taken my blood pressure a couple of weeks ago. I looked down at her hand, the white of her skin contrasting with the tan of my arm. I didn’t want her to ever lift her hand from that spot. “I’m married. That will never happen.”
“I know that.” No, wait a minute. I didn’t know that. “Why not?”
“Because it’s not,” she exclaimed. Erica removed her hand from my arm, got up and walked out. The spot on my arm where her hand had rested tingled with the memory of her touch. My memory burned with the look she gave me as she left the bar. Walking out the door, she paused for a second and turned to glance back at me. The look in her eyes? I couldn’t tell for sure, but it seemed to be one filled with sorrow and longing.
I called the hospital again a week later and left another message. This time she was at the bar before I was. I sat down next to her, pulling the chair a little closer to her. “Why now?” she asked.
“Because you came into my life.”
We spent another hour talking about everything and nothing. She began to reveal that she wasn’t happily married. As she told me more over the next few months, what it came down to was that her husband ignored her. She was an extra paycheck in the house, somebody to clean, and somebody to please him when he wanted it. But he never asked her how she was, how her life was, what troubled her or pleased her.
When Erica got up to leave after our hour was up, she leaned over and kissed me on my cheek. I can still feel her lips there--warm and slightly moist, brushing against my skin. Before I could turn to return the kiss, she was gone, halfway to the exit.
We continued on that way for a few months. Meeting once a week for a beer and an hour of conversation. My initial physical attraction turned into a much more complex combination of feelings. I was convinced that Erica and I were meant for each other. There was only one thing in our way. Her marriage. There was only so far she was willing to go. Occasionally, she would allow me to hug her in the parking lot behind the bar. Words can’t describe the feeling of her in my arms. She fit perfectly. Her head on my shoulder. My arms wrapped around her.
Twice, I talked her into stepping into my car with me. We kissed. We caressed. There was an electric charge that went through both of us when we touched. When our skin made contact, all was right with the world.
And, a week ago, I asked her to leave her husband.
4
You set me free!
To live my life!
You became my reason to survive …
-- “The Great Divide” by Scott Stapp
I stood there in the rain and watched the sky. I was soaked through and ready to return to my car when I felt two arms wrap around me from behind. I knew immediately who it was. How could I not know her touch? I remained still, waiting to see what she would do. I felt her head rest against my back.
“I’m sorry,” she said. I said nothing and did nothing. I needed more. It had been a week since I had asked. I felt like she owed me something more than a simple apology. I waited. The rain continued to fall. If possible, the sky grew even darker.
“Say something,” she pleaded, while squeezing me a little tighter. I could feel her heart beating against my back and the heat of her seep through my rain-soaked shirt.
Try as I might to think of something else to say, there was really only one question for me to ask. “Did you?” I whispered, hoping that she had finally chosen to speak the truth and accept a life better than the one she had.
Erica released me and turned me around so that we were facing each other. I wrapped my arms around her waist, pulling her to me. She leaned into me, catching her breath as she did so. It was something she did every time we touched--a little hitch in her breath that told me that she felt the same way about me as I did about her. As long as she kept catching her breath when we touched she would never have to tell me that she loved me. That split second when she couldn’t control herself was all that I needed.
There was something magical in the way we touched. Something she felt that she had never experienced before--something as simple as the touch of somebody who truly loved her. From the first time I held her in my arms I had felt the same magic. There was something comforting and good about having her in my arms. To be able to kiss her and feel her skin under my fingertips. It was a feeling I had never had before and one that I wasn’t sure I would ever experience again. When I touched her, everything that followed came naturally. There was no effort or thought involved.
After a moment, she turned her face to mine and standing on her toes, kissed me lightly. “Yes,” she replied.
I squeezed her more tightly, lifted her off her feet and spun her around. “Are you okay?” I asked, suddenly concerned about how he might have taken it.
“Yes. But, I don’t want to talk about it,” she said, pulling back from me so she could look me in the eye. “Ever.”
5
In your eyes
I see what’s on my mind
You got me wild
Turned around inside
-- “Say Goodbye” by Dave Matthews
We got in my car and began driving. About two hours down the road, we pulled over to the side of the road. We had no idea where we were going and decided we couldn’t wait any longer. I put the rear seats down and spread a blanket out. Erica and I got in the back and, in a little turnout in the middle of nowhere, with the hum of rain hitting the roof of the car, made love for the first time. I felt something I had never felt before. A woman who truly wanted me as much as I wanted her.
I sang to her that night as I kissed her and worshipped her. An old song. A standard. It begins “You are so beautiful… To me…Can’t you see…You’re everything I hoped for…You’re everything I need.” My voice cracked as I sang quietly to her. When I was done, tears of happiness streamed down my cheeks and Erica gripped me tightly. We would be together forever, this I know.
I have run to the ocean
Through the horizon
Chased the sun
I’ve waited for the light to come,
And at times I would give up
Wrapped your loving arms ‘round me,
And with your love I’ll overcome.
You have
Loved me when I was weak,
You have given unselfishly,
Kept me from falling … falling
Everywhere but my knees!
-- “The Great Divide” by Scott Stapp